Great Expectations

I went for a date, in fact, I don't think it was even a "date" on the 16th October. I think I thought it was a date, he thought it was "drinks" just to confuse things even more. It was good, I found it easy to talk, he made me laugh, I flirted, we kissed (the kiss was amazing) and I haven't seen him since.

OK, I appreciate he is busy, I'm feeling completely over subscribed myself at the moment but there's hardly been any contact to keep any sort of interest going. Barely any text messages, no emails, no facebook flirting, nothing.

Now I wouldn't describe myself as needy, its just I have a short attention span. I need some mild flirtation between meetings to keep me interested otherwise I get distracted by other people, friends, shopping, life in general. Why are men so rubbish at communication?

I am going to generalise that men from his particular industry are terrible at keeping in touch. This is from obeservations of two members of this sub species. My best friend is also trying to "date" one of them and has the same problem.

You see, if they were horrible, not very special, we wouldn't bother waiting and hoping for them to get in touch (stomach flutters when text received from said men) or if it seemed that they were doing it on purpose, instead we have reluctantly accepted that it's just the way they are.

Now, being a cynic I am begining to wonder if this behaviour is completely natural, or, are these guys of above average intelligence playing a cunning game? The tactic could be to have us accept such poor levels of communication and lower our expectations so that when they eventually get in touch we are so happy to hear from them.

Lower expectations + easier to impress ladies = less effort on part of male.

In fact, we smile and are happy when we receive non flirty messages that read "How are you?" in such a platonic way were not even sure if any kind of spark ever happened - was that kiss all a dream?

It wouldn't bother me but I like this guy, I want to get to know him more, plus he is really fit in a Jude Law kind of way but far sexier.

So what on Earth constitutes a date then?